I gave some thought to what LOVE has to do with it…ha ha…I couldn’t resist!
Pain – Love … let’s investigate how we can use Four Easy Processes to bring happiness, peacefulness and less pain into your life.
Listen – Observe – Visualize – Execute
Listen to everything you say – I mean it – really listen to how you say things. Would you want to hear what you just said or are about to say? If not, change it up. There are many ways to say the same thing and often times there is a much kinder way to get our message across. Because our responses are more of a reflex our tone can be not so nice and our words sharper than they need to be. SO, listen to how you speak – to others – AND to yourself!’
Observe what is going on around you! Often times we find ourselves living in a ‘bubble’ not seeing what is happening outside of our own little world. AND that can be just fine – but by observing what is taking place outside that bubble you can discover and be aware of any hiccups that can be coming your way. For example, if you know that every time you get together with certain people (friends or family) you get triggered over something they do or say – observe the behavior that gets them to the place of bothering you.
Remember – this was such a valuable realization for me – that when anyone says or does something that affects you in a negative way – what they say or do is really truly about them not you at all. When anyone says or does something that affects you in a negative way – what they say or do is really truly about them not you at all.When anyone says or does something that affects you negatively – it is about them and not you. Click To Tweet
We just allow things that happen to affect us in a personal way – OR it could be a direct reflection of something we need to work on at a personal level – YIKES – but it is true – try it, I promise you will start to see what I mean.
Visualize – ok you all know that I can be a little ‘out there’. So I challenge you to really visualize how you want the events in your life to ‘play’ out. Don’t just assume that everything will play out just as it does every other time. Spend some time visualizing how the most pleasant experience would look like – enjoy thinking about that type of outcome. Because you know as well as I do that if you worry about everything – it will certainly attract that very thing. So why not have some fun and ‘dream’ about the perfect experience – when it happens that way GREAT – and if it falls a bit short you did not spend time prior to the event ‘worrying’ about it – you had a great time visualizing what you wanted! Make sense?
Execute – be who you want to be. Regardless of everyone else’s behavior mirror – execute – being the person that you really want to be. Be an example of the values you hold near and dear to your heart. Don’t join in on the office gossip or family squabbles – be and do differently – EXECUTE!
Hugs and Love,
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